Friday, April 20, 2018

R is for Reality

Welcome to the A to Z blogging challenge where for the month of April we post everyday except Sundays, corresponding to each letter of the alphabet. I've chosen to blog about keeping the romance alive in a relationship along with ideas for married couple dates. Each post will also have a romantic song for you to listen to whilst you read.

Today's song is the wonderful Lionel Richie and Shania Twain - Endless Love.


R, is of course for romance and in 2016 Romance was my A to Z post, but today it's also for reality. Romance isn't something that just happens magically without any thought or planning, the reality is that it takes effort to keep it alive. The reality is also that romance isn't all hearts and roses, it can be found in the simplest of moments and gestures.

It may be sitting in a cafe, looking at your special person, and realising how lucky you are to have that person in your life.....


Or smiling every time you look at that silly little gift, like my pink kangaroo that my beloved found in a charity shop - I absolutely love it.


By thinking that romance is only in the big gestures you put too much pressure on yourself and set yourself up for disappointment. The reality is that romance happens in so many little moments throughout your life.

Pick a flower, buy a favourite chocolate bar, give a foot massage, and the list goes on.

Today's quote is from the very wise Dr Seuss:


Pamela & Ken
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Previous A to Z posts:

2017 = Random Highland Finds

2016 = Romance

Thursday, April 19, 2018

Q is for Quatervois

Welcome to the A to Z blogging challenge where for the month of April we post everyday except Sundays, corresponding to each letter of the alphabet. I've chosen to blog about keeping the romance alive in a relationship along with ideas for married couple dates. Each post will also have a romantic song for you to listen to whilst you read.

Today's song is from the fabulous Queen - I was born to love you.


Q is for Quatervois, which means a decision or crossroads in ones life. Everyone has moments in their life in which they feel that they are standing at a crossroads and when I met my beloved that was definitely one of them. Go back to Australia or stay in the UK with my true love - who am I kidding, it wasn't really a crossroads, more like a one way street that led straight to Ken.

In relationships there are lots of important decisions and metaphorical crossroads, but as long as you face them together then hopefully the decisions will be easy ones. Being in love doesn't mean that you're automatically going to agree with each other, but hopefully you will listen to each other and come to a mutual agreement.


 Q is also for quality moments, and shared quiet. Treasure those small moments that feel like you're the only two people in the world, whether it's on a walk out in the countryside or curled up in dressing gowns together.


Today's quote:


Pamela & Ken
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Wednesday, April 18, 2018

P is for Painting and Pyjamas

Welcome to the A to Z blogging challenge where for the month of April we post everyday except Sundays, corresponding to each letter of the alphabet. I've chosen to blog about keeping the romance alive in a relationship along with ideas for married couple dates. Each post will also have a romantic song for you to listen to whilst you read.

Okay I'm back into the comfort zone of an easy letter and today's song was easy as well, as the DJ at Bay Rock in Tasmania used to quite often play this as the slow song at the end of the night back in the late 80's early 90's. I used to always wish I had someone special to dance with to it, and now I have. It's Rush Rush - Paula Abdul.


Ken's suggestions for today - Passionate and Pamela! I think next year I might have to set him up with his own blog and get him to do the A to Z as I would love to know what he would write.

A great activity to do together and a fun idea for a creative date, is to go to a paint your own pottery place. Some of these even have a cafe as part of the studio, so you can spend lots of relaxing time there. The lovely studio we go to is called Smarty Art and is based in Grantown-on-Spey.


It's incredibly relaxing to sit and paint an object that you're going to get joy out of when you get it home. You can be silent, just enjoying each others company, or you can chat about anything that comes to mind - I think there should be certain topics off limits as this is meant to be a fun and chilled out activity.



It's so amazing how different your creations look once they have been glazed. I love Ken's little vase and the other day I went upstairs to find he'd put daffodils in it and placed it on my dressing table - very sweet. My heart trinket box fits into my dressing table colour scheme perfectly.


P is also for pyjamas, and occasionally you need to snuggle up on the sofa together in your pyjamas, shutting the real world outside away from your little cocoon of two.


Today's quote:


Pamela & Ken
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Previous A to Z posts:

2017 = Plockton, the home of Hamish Macbeth

2016 = Pitlochry - a Scottish Gem

Tuesday, April 17, 2018

O is for the One

Welcome to the A to Z blogging challenge where for the month of April we post everyday except Sundays, corresponding to each letter of the alphabet. I've chosen to blog about keeping the romance alive in a relationship along with ideas for married couple dates. Each post will also have a romantic song for you to listen to whilst you read.

I've decided that the second half of the alphabet is not my friend - difficult to decide on a topic and I'm not even going to write what Ken suggested for the letter O, as I would have to put that this is an R rated blog.

Today's song, after much searching on google, is from Jake Owen - I Was Made For You.


I decided that I have to have one post in the A to Z where I gush about my beloved who is the one - my one and only love, soulmate, and best friend. He's the one that inspires me to be romantic and to strive to keep romance, fun, and togetherness as the central theme of our relationship.


I never thought I would find my one, having bets with people that I would never get married, but Lady Destiny had other things in store for me and arranged for a boy born on the west coast of Scotland to cross paths with a girl born in Tasmania at the bottom of the world.


There are times when romance is the last thing on our minds as life gets in the way, but that's why it's important to have little things up your sleeve that only take a moment but can mean so much to your special one. A post-it note on the mirror, a favourite chocolate hidden in their pocket, a spontaneous shoulder massage, or a lovely text message in the middle of their day. Just make time.

Today's quote:


Pamela & Ken
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Previous A to Z posts:

2017 = Orkney

2016 = Obsession

Monday, April 16, 2018

N is for Nature

Welcome to the A to Z blogging challenge where for the month of April we post everyday except Sundays, corresponding to each letter of the alphabet. I've chosen to blog about keeping the romance alive in a relationship along with ideas for married couple dates. Each post will also have a romantic song for you to listen to whilst you read.

We're into the third week of the challenge and this is the letter that gave me the most trouble so far, including for a romantic song. Finally I have chosen a real blast from the past - I saw this band live in Tasmania many, many, many years ago.

Today's song is If I Could by 1927 - this song is from 1988.


By now you may have realised that my beloved has some very odd suggestions for our A to Z posts, and I think he's outdone himself today. His suggestions were; neverending, nuptials, nudity, and nipples!!! I don't think anything more is needed to be said about that except that he suggested naked in 2016 as well.

Today N is for nature. The joy of taking a walk together in nature is a really great thing, and there is nature everywhere, even in big cities. It's another of those occasions where you need to turn your phones to silence and cherish having moments of peace and tranquility.


You may want to take a picnic to the local park, or you may have a balcony or rooftop that you can sit on to take in nature's beauty, even if it's just watching a sunset together. Yesterday we went for a walk in a local forest and I read Scottish poetry to my beloved as we sat and relaxed - my version of the Scottish accent was dreadful but Ken seemed to enjoy it.

One great place to enjoy nature in big cities is in old graveyards (I knew I could get graveyards into a romantic post somehow). In London there are seven Victorian Era graveyards that are now seen as nature reserves and are really lovely to wander around - lots of wild flowers and if you're lucky, some local wildlife.


Why don't you do something this week to celebrate mother nature, and spending it with a special person would be even better.

Today's quote:

Pamela & Ken
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Previous A to Z posts:

2017 = Nairn

2016 = Nature

Saturday, April 14, 2018

M is for Moments and Memories

Welcome to the A to Z blogging challenge where for the month of April we post everyday except Sundays, corresponding to each letter of the alphabet. I've chosen to blog about keeping the romance alive in a relationship along with ideas for married couple dates. Each post will also have a romantic song for you to listen to whilst you read.

Today's song is the hauntingly beautiful I've Loved You Before by Melissa Etheridge - here's an example of the wonderful lyrics.

When I think of how you know me, 
no doubts no thinking twice.
When your smile can be so soothing,
a familiar paradise.
When there's no one else that makes me whole.
I never wanting more.
I get this feeling.
I know I've loved you before.


Whether you've been together one year or seventy years, then your life is full of moments that have created those wonderful memories of shared moments together. There will also be those moments that weren't so great for whatever reason, but those have also shaped you into the couple you are, and I know for us it makes us even more grateful for the strength of our relationship.

Sometimes they can be big moments, like sitting at the Oyster Bar on Sydney Harbour with the iconic bridge behind us.


Or they can be really funny moments like the photo that reminds me that just after I took it the bird on Ken's head decided to poo on him.


Take time to reminisce together over your shared experiences, especially when life keeps getting in the way. Remember that those moments aren't just the big ones, it may be something as simple as the time my beloved hid a toy unicorn in my overnight bag when I had to go away for work (I'm a bit obsessive about unicorns). A small moment that whenever I look at that unicorn instantly makes me smile.

Today's quote - truer words were never spoken:


Pamela & Ken
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Previous A to Z posts:


Friday, April 13, 2018

L is for Letters and Laws

Welcome to the A to Z blogging challenge where for the month of April we post everyday except Sundays, corresponding to each letter of the alphabet. I've chosen to blog about keeping the romance alive in a relationship along with ideas for married couple dates. Each post will also have a romantic song for you to listen to whilst you read.

Today's song is from Lonestar - Amazed. I love this song and the words are so special;

I'm so in love with you
It just keeps getting better
I wanna spend the rest of my life
With you by my side
Forever and ever


When was the last time that you wrote your special one a letter (and no, notes about things you need at the shops do not count)? Did you ever write each other letters before you were married or committed to each other forever?

Letters don't have to be posted, but this is a nice surprise if you post them to arrive when you're not in the house. A letter left on a pillow, in the fridge, or tucked into the pocket of a coat can all be really lovely ways to make your person's day.

Before we got married I used to write a law according to Pamela J and leave them for my beloved to find - he kept all of these so a few years ago I typed them all up and put them in a photobook for him. We  have both kept all the letters, cards, and poems that we've been given by the other over the last two and a bit decades.


Why don't you take the time this week to write an actual letter rather than send a text, e-mail, or instant message. It doesn't have to be on plain white paper, you can choose any colour paper you like, and any pen you like, including ones with sparkles in them. You could even leave a little love note on a mirror written in lipstick.


Today's quote is something that I hope is true - lets keep the handwritten letter alive.


Pamela & Ken
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Previous A to Z posts:

2017 = Loch Ness

2016 = London